What had happened was… 1st post back in months
Hi Pursuers and Inspirations,
I know… I know - I said 2025 I was going to write more, but I managed 2 posts and a couple of Music Mondays. Please forgive me because, honestly, 2025 was a year. When I look back on this Instagram post from 2024, I am SO glad I leant into God's prompting. Otherwise, the way I would have processed 2025 would have been very different.
The Lord knew what was going to happen:
He knew that my marriage was going to end and that divorce wouldn’t be an easy road.
He knew I would have to move out of the house we lived in for 10 years, and He knew where He was going to place me, which is a testimony within itself.
He knew the day-to-day emotions I was going to feel, and the questions I needed to process. He knew how present I would need to be to the pain to heal, and held my hand through it.
He knew the people would be around to comfort and encourage me, and to help me move.
He knew I would try to disqualify myself from ministry-related activities if I could, but the church & wider community I am part of encouraged me to continue by the very nature of their prayerfulness, hugs, love and kindness of Christ Jesus. When I voiced disqualification to some people, they reminded me that I wasn't disqualified.
The Lord knew everything 😭
I share this as a 2025 testimony of the promise of God to never leave nor forsake (Deuteronomy 31:6, Joshua 1:9). In the midst of the darkest valleys, He is there (Psalm 23). He gives us strength to make springs in the valley of Baca (Psalm 84) as long as we choose to trust and believe in who He says He is.
If you/anyone you know is going through the divorce process, in particular if you are a Christian, know that God still loves you and wants to bring healing and comfort. It may be painful, and for some, it may end in marital reconciliation and restoration. For others, it might not. Either way, remember El Roi is not surprised, and He is not done with you yet.
3 last things from me for people going through divorce and separation from my experience:
Surround yourself with people who will hold you both to account and speak God's truth to you, who are prayerfully practical, and who will hold you safely when the rubber hits the road. Identify some people you can call when emotions get overwhelming.
If you can, get therapy/mentoring. From my experience, both were hugely beneficial.
Be kind to yourself. No matter the reasoning for the divorce, it's a grieving process.
And for those who are supporting, check up on your friends regularly during and after the process. Sometimes, it can be difficult to reach out when readjusting to a new way of life, and be patient if they don't get back to you right away. Overwhelm is real.
So as I look back, I thank God that I held onto my faith. As I have made conscious decisions to draw close to Him, He has drawn me closer to Himself, and I know Him more deeply. I thank Him for His provisions, His challenge and His gentleness. And I thank Him for every single person who has been, and continues to be, a part of this journey.
Excited to see what The Lord has in store for the future, even as I continue to heal and process in the day-to-day. Here’s to a new chapter of life.
